Do’s and Don’ts for friends of the grieving

When people you care about lose a loved one, go through a divorce, receive a frightening diagnosis, or mourn over a child gone astray–what, exactly, should you do? I mean, really? And I’m not talking about casseroles here. I think we’ve all got an...

Handling joy and grief at the holidays

Christmas is memories. I almost lost it today trying to choose a picture of my mom and me together, so I could make a new Christmas ornament. I found the last “good” picture of us together, from April of this year, about 3 months before she died. All the...

My first birthday without my mother

I have a birthday this week. It’s my first birthday without my mother. I’m not asking for “happy birthdays” or even remarks about “how good I look for my age.” I’m just trying to settle into a new decade (yuk!) and lean into...

Grief sucks less today

On August 22, I wrote a blog entitled “Grief sucks,” and 458 of you read it (as of this minute). I wrote it after my great-grandmother’s mahogany table arrived at my home, fractured into 6 pieces. Thank you for reading. Technically, old things...

Making honor practical

I woke up angry yesterday, and I don’t know why. I’m blaming grief. That’s one of the stages, you know. Check it out. I’m not psycho. Even though this week I’ve been sad, happy, energetic, irritable, and lethargic. My body’s...

Grief sucks

Grief sucks. Yes, I just said that. So you know I’m going to be honest here. This has been a really hard week. Grief is like that sometimes. Those who grieve will take small comfort in knowing that even for nice, spiritual people, every day doesn’t end in...

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